Life Guide

We all have the basic need to be happy, appreciated, respected, and loved. Yet, our definition of such values might be the main factor in defining successful lives and relationships.

The concept of happiness

We are programmed to give and receive love, but what is love to you and what’s your concept of happiness? We are practically surrounded by love in its many versions, starting with self-love. Still, knowing what love and happiness mean to us and recognizing our own worth would be the two most important steps on our path to fulfillment. And the best way to go about it in terms of romance, is letting love find us. Because when we stop looking for it, it means we no longer fear to be alone and feel comfortable with ourselves. Plus, we don’t just find romantic love; we build it with someone who is also interested in loving us.

At times we could find ourselves in situations where we sabotage our happiness or we hold back to experience true love, simply cause we might not be ready. So, another important question is whether we are ready to be happy, and willing not only to love but to be loved.

Define priorities

True love is looking for us too, and there are several elements in the equation in terms of your preference and wants: beauty, power, sex, money, status, companionship. Because in a perfect scenario, we all want the so-called full package. And though we feel naturally inclined to beautiful looking people, looks and bodies will eventually fade away. Personalities and character remain. Lust as well attracts people to one another, but love is the glue that keeps us together and hopefully for a lifetime. Thus, we’ll need to have our priorities straight and know what it is we want and what makes us happy. Because when priorities are clear, decisions come easy. ​ Love and happiness are a way of life; they are constant, and they flow. Yet, sometimes finding these feelings might also be a bit difficult because we confuse them with attachment. And when we look for them in people, places, and material things, just like it happens with looks and bodies the rush and bliss of the moment would eventually fade away. The universe is Love and it begins within each of us.

So, instead of looking for love and happiness in the wrong places, we should focus on being ourselves and spending time with people we feel comfortable with. When we find happiness within, there’s no fear of losing anything and we find love everywhere. To love ourselves is to love other people, places, and everything we experience.

And if we are ready to love and be loved, when we decide to be happy, we stop putting redundant boundaries setting our lives in the direction we want, propelling those who are in the same vibration to feel attracted and to fall in love with the real us. There is no need for facades or pretends.

When it comes to love, we must realize that commitment comes with responsibility and expectations. We must also realize that anyone we decide to be with, is another individual with a different thought process and we would have to be flexible to adapt to someone else’s wants and needs, which takes time. Time to learn how to manage problems, disagreements, and misunderstandings. Time to learn the best ways to reciprocate to our loved one and time to learn about each other strengths and weaknesses and how to go about it. Time to develop trust and understanding and to create the glue that would stick and keep us together.

Love will find its way to us

Some would say that the more people one meets, the higher the odds of finding true love or that the more initiative we take, the faster we would find love. Unfortunately, it’s not about quantity but quality. Because if that would be the case, every popular person we know would be in a happy romantic relationship. Yet, love is intriguing, and it usually happens when we least expect it. There’s no need to force anything, instead we should let things happen naturally. Be relaxed and avoid trying to impress anyone. Simply enjoy time with people allowing them to express how they feel about us either in a spoken way or with gestures; so, we must be self-aware and conscious. Love is a beautiful thing to experience and there is no specific age for it. If anything, age gives us an advantage, because as we get older, we get a clearer sense of who we are and of traits we feel most attracted to and appreciate in people. We see the value in friendships, consistency, compassion, and awareness. We learn it’s important to please ourselves instead of other people and we learn to follow our hearts. We could compare love with life itself, because once it comes to us, it has no expiration date, and so like life, we should take good care of it and keep it healthy. As we learn to love our lives, ourselves, and those around us, we find purpose in life and part of that purpose is sharing that love with someone else. Likes attract likes, so if you have not found your loved one yet, do not despair. We have been conditioned to believe that we need to have a partner, yet it’s much more important to accept and love ourselves and whenever we are ready the right people will gravitate towards us